Balancing Frugality and Camaraderie - What’s Your Advice?

I received the following email last week:

I was hoping you could throw this one out to the group of readers:

I'm a relatively frugal recent college grad, working hard to save as much as I can. I left my job at Bear Stearns in April and started a new position at a small but stable financial services firm last Wednesday. The analysts on my team frequently go out to lunch, and have been inviting me each time. I went with the group on my first day, and we all paid for our own meals. I viewed that expense as part of team building rather than as the cost of a meal which I would have otherwise brown-bagged, but I am not interested in spending money on lunch more than once a week or so, and when I do spend that money I'm not terribly interested in eating with work colleagues (my wife works nearby and when she's not around I enjoy relaxing alone with a book and my food). What to do?

Thank you!

-Jay

My opinion:

I think you have to ask yourself what you have to gain by eating with your colleagues. If you're the new kid on the block, it may be a good idea to forge some relationships with your new colleagues. If the only way to do that is by eating lunch with them, then perhaps you should consider doing so once or twice a week. I definitely don't think it is necessary to eat out with them every day.

Another way to build friendship with colleagues would be to go out to lunch with one or two of them at a time. People are more likely to talk if they're not in a large group.

The main thing is to be careful that you don't become the office loner.

Now it's time for AFM readers to weigh in. What's your advice for Jay? How do you balance frugality with camaraderie?

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Living Well without Spending a Lot of Money

Having a moderate income does not mean that you have to live like a pauper.? If you want to live well, then the key is living within your means.? That means not stretching the family budget to upgrade to a larger home that you can barely afford, or trading up for a new car every few years.? A few small sacrifices here and there on your more big ticket items can mean a lot more money to spend (and save) in other places.??

If you find yourself tempted to “upgrade” homes, consider why you are looking.? If you simply do not have enough room for everyone, then think twice about how your home is currently arranged.? Does everyone have to have their own room?? Do you really need a room dedicated to being an office or an exercise room?? If you can combine spaces to make things work in a smaller home, then you can spend the money that would have gone to a larger mortgage payment on other things that will bring you much more immediate and hopefully lasting joy.??

The same goes for upgrading your car.? You may want to drive the newest model, but it obviously doesn’t keep you happy for long, or you wouldn’t feel the urge to upgrade.? Instead, pick a model that you love and stick with it.? Bonus points for picking a model that is moderately priced and that will save you money on gas in the long run, too.?

Spending quality time and living well does not have to involve spending a lot of money.? If you find yourself going out to dinner or to the movies often, then think about why you are going out and see if you can change your attitude to change your behavior.? You may find that taking a walk to the local park or spending time on your bike is not only healthier, but less expensive and just as enjoyable as spending money.? If you don’t cook your own meals because you don’t know how, then consider taking a cooking class - which you can consider an investment in yourself for the future.??

When you love to spend money, you should also never underestimate the power of the coupon.? If you have to shop, then save as much money as possible doing it by applying coupons and even using cash back rewards cards.? You should always make sure to pay your cards off in full when you get the bill to ensure that your interest does not negate the cash back.? Enjoy your spending, but do it wisely.??

It is easy to live well if you are living within your means.? “Keeping up with the Joneses” is a practice that is guaranteed to get you into financial trouble very quickly, but if you learn to enjoy the things that you can afford to have and to do, you will find that your life is already incredibly rich.?

Travel Tips

Someone pointed out a budget travel article to me sometime last year, but I didn’t care much for it, so I’m not going to link it here. But it got me to thinking about my last backpacking trip to Europe. This post is an old draft from October 2007. I’m just now getting around to finishing it up for you.

Now, first of all, somehow I scammed a friend into paying for my plane ticket from San Francisco to Paris about 10 years ago. It was a situation where her folks weren’t going to let her go without a companion so the money had to come from somewhere and by golly, this is how it was going to get done. It was her decision to do this, never my suggestion. She made the offer and I merely accepted.

I saved nearly all year for it since my friend called me sometime her final year of college and said she wanted to backpack in Europe for a month. Fine with me. I was living with roommates/family that were willing to let me pay a month’s rent late. I diligently paid down my credit cards, paid my student loans on time, and banked about $800 cash before I left.

To plan the trip we did several things.

1. We joined Hostelling International. That got us discounts across Europe at youth hostels. We used their pre-booking service to reserve rooms. This was absolutely essential in places like Paris, which are extremely popular during the summer months.

2. My friend had an ISIC card. It’s an international student ID card and helped her get cheaper admission to many museums. I was no longer a student, but I would let her pay for us and often the ticket taker would assume I had one too. When they didn’t, that was fine, I paid full price.

3. We did Eurail passes. To get the Youth price, you must be under 26. I think I was 24 at the time. I’m too old now so I might as well get the Adult 2nd class ticket these days. But yes, you can save quite a lot. We went from Paris to Madrid, to Barcelona, to Geneva, to Brussels, to Paris, to Munich to Geneva, back to Paris. Eurostar/Chunnel tickets were separate and I went to Brussels alone since I couldn’t afford the Chunnel. My friend left me alone to pick up another friend in London who couldn’t afford a full two weeks with us.

4. We ate really cheaply. We got breakfast at our hostel every morning without fail. We then bought fruit, snacks, bread, cheese and meat for lunch everyday. We only dined at restaurants at night. Since we weren’t big drinkers, we got vin du pays and shared it at the youth hostel, which is mighty entertaining. Take a pocketknife, bandanna, and canteen/water bottle. You will find them essential on your travels when it comes to dining.

5. We traveled light. I used a backpack that carried about 4,000 cu inches. It wasn’t very much, but that meant I kept my possessions to a minimum and my souvenir buying down. The only things I have from that trip are pictures and a pair of hiking boots because my regular sneakers just weren’t cutting the mustard. I spent a lot on them, and while they were worth it. I should have tried to buy better boots at home on sale. But I had no idea that running shoes were actually terrible for this sort of trip. Chalk this up to serious inexperience about hiking and traveling. Sneakers were ok in the past, but definitely not for this kind of trip.

6. Do your research to maximize your adventure! I got the Rick Steve’s Guide to Museums. I read it and was very specific about which museums I wanted to visit and gave them a priority. I studied art history and my friend has less of an interest in it, so she let me dictate a little of what to see. We had a really good time because Rick’s books are very informative, right down to a walking path through the museum that will take you efficiently past the major highlights. I kid you not. He will be specific about which staircase to take.

On a different trip to Italy, I used The Blue Guide to Rome. That was an extremely wonderful book. Don’t get too hung up on Let’s Go and Lonely Planet. If you are interested in a special location or topic, get the book and do the research since it will enhance your visit. Say if you are going on a wine trip in France, get a book that will teach you about the terroirs so you can figure out if you want to go to Burgundy or Bordeaux.

Rick Steves wrote a really great overview about guidebooks. Having used many of the guidebooks he’s listed. He is spot on with his descriptions of the books. Use this to help you decide between guidebooks. And I completely agree, get the latest copy you can. Absolutely borrow an old one from a friend, but when you are ready to go, get the latest copy for yourself, within 12 months of publication. Guidebooks are periodicals, and just like a magazine their information has time-value.

7. We didn’t have a crazy nightlife. Sure I went out on La Rambla in Barcelona and ended up dancing close to all night. I hit a bar or two with some Catalans I met in a Belgian youth hostel when I was by myself. But I didn’t pack a fancy outfit to wear clubbing and skipped all that entirely on this trip. Hanging out with the kids in the youth hostel was much more fun and conducive for conversation than a noisy club.

8. Work the network. Now that I’m older and have some extremely well-traveled friends, I can leverage those connections into couch surfing for a night or two in far flung locations. I haven’t taken advantage of it, but I have put people in touch with each other and had good reports about the outcome. Be prepared though to take a gift or some sort of thank you for the host.

I stayed with my pen pal’s parents when I stayed in Switzerland. I hadn’t written my pen pal a letter in 5 years. But out of curiosity, I called his parents’ house from Geneva out of the phone book and took a trip out to see them finally. It was really nice. I hope he gets to visit me in DC one day. I ended up sending a present later for his mother when I found out she likes to collect a special type of figurine.

9. Think about working on your trip. I haven’t done this, but I know someone who worked on his grandmother’s potato farm in Finland for part of the summer, prolonging his stay in Europe by a few weeks. I also had a friend who picked cantaloupes in Israel because he wanted to save money and travel longer on a trip around the world. Basically he was a migrant farmer, you know, the kind we try to keep out of the US. You do what you can if you want to keep traveling and since he was with a friend, he said it wasn’t too bad. Obviously, this route isn’t for everyone. But there are more formal work experiences you can arrange as well.

Ok, that’s about it. I hope it gives you some ideas for your next trip.

Money in the Bank - What are your Best Options for Gaining Interest with your Money

Congratulations on making savings a priority!? Now that you have some money in the bank, it is time to figure out what kind of account will yield you the best benefits.? Do not leave your money sitting in checking where it does not accrue interest; this practice does nothing for you, and will not help you grow you money.? In fact, leaving your money in a checking account may actually tempt you to spend more than you intend, so watch out for your funds!

A basic savings account is a better option than your savings account, yielding you a small interest payment each month with little or no minimum balance required in the account.? If you need your money to be highly mobile and available at all times, then this is the perfect account for you, particularly if you tend to maintain a low balance at this point.?

If you have managed to save a few thousand dollars, on the other hand, a money market account might be the best thing for you.? This account has a much higher interest rate than a traditional savings account, but also has a much higher minimum balance, often of several thousand dollars.? If you feel comfortable having a few thousand dollars dedicated to the account at a time, then this might be the perfect option for you.? If you can’t afford not to have instant access to that money, however, you might want to stick to a more traditional savings account.?

If you really don’t mind having your money tied up for a long time, though, you can spend your money on a CD, which stands for Certificate of Deposit.? A CD is a special kind of account, which usually has an even higher rate of return than a money market account, but which ties the full balance up completely.? When you put your money into a CD, you commit the money for a certain amount of time.? You cannot deposit or withdraw to or from that account, and the money that you earn on it is often applied less frequently, sometimes annually.? This kind of account yields higher interest payments, but usually have a large penalty if you withdraw your money before the term is up.? If you can afford to have your money set aside for long periods of time, then a CD might be a good option for long term savings.?

Getting online discounts and coupon codes

Whenever you buy anything online, it’s always a good idea to do a quick search for coupons or discount codes. You can often easily find 10% off, 20% off, and free shipping. Many times the values are even higher than that.

With many purchases or just large ones, these discounts can add up quickly. Whenever you are checking out and see a box for a promo code, it's always prudent to take a quick look for some codes before submitting the form.

You can find some great discounts with Adobe coupons. (Although university students can get very cheap education packages from their campus bookstores) If you need to get a copy of Photoshop, Dreamweaver, Illustrator, Acrobat, or any of Adobe's other products, then you should check it out

You can get discounts with Kohls coupons or Macys coupons. This could save you a chunk of change, versus shopping at their department stores. And if you wanted, you could even go take a look at the items in the brick and mortar stores beforehand.

Hopefully you will be able to find some great bargains and codes that will save you money today and down the road.

This post has been sponsored by ‘Coupons for Everyone’.

Developing my legitimacy bit by bit

It pleases me to report that I have passed the first of two exams necessary for me to attain the certification of Accredited Financial Counselor, a designation awarded by the Association for Financial Counseling and Planning Education. Once I have completed a second exam (probably sometime in the spring), finished several hundred hours of practicum experience, subscribed to the Code of Ethics and paid the membership fee, I will be a blogger with a legitimate, real-life accreditation, and not merely an "internet professional"! How many other personal finance bloggers can say the same?

It was quite a test. Nothing at all compared to the CPA exams or the CFP nightmare, but it definitely required a lot of preparation to fully understand all concepts covered.

If you are eligible and interested, this program is a great opportunity for military spouses and survivors to get free education and certification in an important field. The certification would cost about $900 out of pocket otherwise. Applications are accepted in the spring sometime, usually in March. For more information on the program, click here.

Getting To A Million Bucks

Most people don't get rich because they refuse to start small. Why bother? Just win the lottery. I can't believe people buy lottery tickets but they do. And the ones I see doing so don't look very smart. And they aren't.

The way to get there is simple, well, kind of. Save two times your annual salary and let the power of compound interest take over. Einstein said that compound interest was the eighth wonder of the world and most people think Einstein was, well, an Einstein.

Jonathan Clements gives the details in the following---

How to Save $1 Million for Retirement

The Wall Street Journal Online
By Jonathan Clements


If you're a newly minted college graduate, the $1 million-plus needed for retirement might seem impossibly large.

Feeling discouraged? Try lowering your sights, aiming instead to accumulate savings equal to two times your annual income.

Once you hit that milestone, the financial wind will be at your back -- and reaching your retirement-savings goal should be a breeze.

Breaking through. Suppose you expect eventually to earn $80,000 a year. Looking ahead to retirement, you reckon that -- in addition to Social Security -- you will want maybe $45,000 a year from your portfolio, adjusted for inflation.

To generate that $45,000, you will need a $1 million nest egg, calculated in today's dollars. This assumes that, in retirement, you use a 4.5% annual portfolio-withdrawal rate.

Investment Growth

"People wonder how they will ever accumulate enough money," says Charles Farrell, a financial adviser with Denver's Northstar Investment Advisors. "But what many investors fail to understand is that, once they reach a certain level of assets, most of the savings should come from investment growth."

Mr. Farrell figures the breakthrough occurs at around two times income. Let's say your salary has hit that $80,000, you have amassed $160,000 in savings, you are socking away 12% of your pretax income each month and your investments earn 6% a year.

Over the next 12 months, your $160,000 portfolio would balloon to $179,518, or $19,518 more. Your monthly savings would account for $9,600 of that growth. But the other $9,918 would come from investment gains. In other words, you've got to the crossover point, where the biggest driver of your portfolio's growth is now investment earnings, not the actual dollars you're socking away.

You should, however, keep salting away money. That sacrifice will be handsomely rewarded, as things really start to snowball. Using the assumptions above, your portfolio would soar from $160,000 to more than $418,000 a decade later. True, part of this gain would be lost to inflation. But inflation should also drive up your salary, allowing you to squirrel away more money.

Get Started Now

Getting started. That still leaves the initial task of accumulating two times income.

"It can take people 12 to 15 years," Mr. Farrell says. "The earlier you can start, the better. But if you're close to two times pay by your early 40s, you're probably in pretty good shape."

As you strive to amass that sum, your top priority should be funding your employer's 401(k) plan. In addition to the initial tax deduction and continuing tax deferral, you will likely receive a matching employer contribution, which will help speed your portfolio's progress.

If you can, save outside your employer's plan, by funding a Roth individual retirement account. That won't get you an initial tax deduction, but you will enjoy tax-free growth. A Roth also offers a heap of flexibility. At any time, you can withdraw your contributions -- but not the account's investment earnings -- without any sort of tax hit. That means your Roth could double as an emergency reserve or as your house down-payment fund.

Investment Ideas

Which investments should you buy? Check out broadly diversified no-load funds like AARP Aggressive and Schwab Target 2040, both of which require a $100 initial investment. Until you reach Schwab's $1,000 brokerage-account minimum, you will need to add $100 every month through an automatic investment plan, where money is pulled out of your bank account and invested directly in the fund.

Also consider Fidelity Freedom 2050 and T. Rowe Price Retirement 2050. The regular minimum at both funds is $2,500. T. Rowe Price will trim that minimum to $1,000 if you open an IRA and waive the minimum entirely if you sign up for a $50-a-month automatic-investment plan. Similarly, at Fidelity Freedom 2050, you can sidestep the minimum if you agree to invest $200 a month through Fidelity's SimpleStart IRA program.